Fear
When we feel fearful, we are not self-confident. Fear is akiller. When we feel fear, we feel like we are not good enough.
There needs to be a distinction here. If you are feeling
fearful because you haven’t done your homework and are lacking
critical preparation for whatever it is you are fearful of, then you
need to stop and do your preparatory work. Being self-confident
also means we have prepared ourselves as best we can.
But, if your fear is because you live in fear most of your life,
I read a great book once called “Feel The Fear and Do It
Anyway.” I would recommend it to anyone.
Self-confidence comes from walking through our fears.
Every time we walk through a fear, no matter, how small – we
build our self-confidence.
What is something you are afraid to do right now?
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Decide that you will do it, no matter what. It doesn’t even
matter if you do it well. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t work out for
you. The only thing that matters is that you step through your fear
and do it.
So many times we criticize ourselves for our perceived failures.
We took a step and “failed.” A secret to self-confidence is to not judge
yourself this way. Instead, look at the action you
took and honor yourself for being brave enough to take it! That is
what really counts!
A lot of the things we do, don’t work out. So what? Better
to die trying than to not try at all.
But again, the important point is, if you walk through your
fear and take the action, your self-confidence will improve,
especially if you honor and praise yourself for taking the action.
Try it!
Remember: Honor yourself for stepping past your fear and
taking action. It doesn’t matter if the action works out! What
matters is you conquered your fear!
And now your comfort zone has expanded. Once you
continue to do this, you will find your comfort zone will get larger
and larger until there is nothing that you are afraid to do. Your
self-confidence will be explosive.
Guilt
The next thing that holds us back is feeling guilt.Personally, I don’t believe there are very many things in life
to feel guilty about. If you are honestly trying to do your best, why
feel guilty?
Guilt saps our strength and our power.
Allowing others to make us feel guilty is not productive. It
is usually their own insecurities that cause others to try and make
us feel guilty. Choose right now, not to allow anyone to make you
feel guilty.
List the things that you are feeling guilty for in your life right
now:
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I hope you didn’t have enough things to fill out all ten lines,
but if you did, you will find yourself feeling amazing selfconfidence
once you have eliminated each of these things from
your life.
Now, I want you to take each of those things that you are
feeling guilty about and write what it would feel like (what you
would feel like), if there was no reason to feel guilty about them
anymore.
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How would it feel, if you weren’t carrying around all this
guilt-baggage?
Now, I want you to get real creative – real creative – and
list three reasons why you shouldn’t feel guilty for each of these
things.
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Now, I want you to refuse to feel guilt from this point on.
And notice how you life and feelings begin to change, especially
your self-confidence.OutrageousMastery.com
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